Online dating has changed
the way people meet; it can be safer than traditional introduction agencies
because you have better control on how you contact and meet other people
whether hetrosexual, gay dating or lesbian dates.
Single
parents don't need to worry about when to tell their new date that kids
come with the deal too. Will they want that 'extra baggage'? Join Dates
for Single Parents - it is FREE to join and you can see photos
as well as send private and anonymous messages to any prospective date.
Dates for single parents, as the name implies is strictly for single
mums and single dads. It is part of the Worlds largest online dating
network and it is free to join!
It would be nice to think that everyone who joins an online dating website
is single, free decent and honest. A great many are but we should always
keep our guard up. So how do we stay safe while we browse introduction
websites and what are the best tips for online dating ?.
Look for a free to join dating websites such as webwidedates.com or
dates4gays.com. Ensure your choice has a 'double-blind' communication
system.
This
simply means that you have a private message post box on the dating
website and you login using your username and password. So your first
correspondence is totally anonymous, you never provide your email address
or phone number. You can keep in touch, get to know each other dump
the ones that you don't like, even befre you arrange a date. Bear in
mind that good free to join dating websites also show photos and a short
biography.
Look at the photo and compare it with their declared age. Do they look
much younger than their age
lucky people, or is the photo ten
years old. They could also tell white lies about their age. When choosing
a username or nickname, think of what impression you give in that name.
Slimsexyblonde or mistermusclebound provides a pretty conclusive idea
of who's behind the name. What happens when you meet and don't fit the
name? You are safe with 'fungirl' or 'balletlover'. Avoid giving away
occupations and residential areas in your username.
Be mindful that online dating is a numbers game and you are bound to
meet a number of unsuitable dates, a few that may remain 'just good
friends' and sooner or later, the right person. Don't take rejection
too personally if they let you down, your new date may have set their
sights too high, or that ten year old photo on the website gave the
game away! That's why it is better to be true.
Have you decided what sort of relationship you are seeking? Long distance
online chats, local passionate dates - or something in between. Imagine
flying to New York from London to find that your date totally lied.
On the other hand a drive into town isn't such a bad thing. It is always
better to take is slowly, use your private mailbox and then perhaps
you ask first for a phone number. At least you can make the call, great
if you can withhold the number too. You don't need to give out your
email address at this stage, or if you feel the need, think about opening
a Hotmail or Yahoo email address rather than your own.
It is easy to get over excited when you feel that you have found just
the right person. A spur of the moment action might be great fun because
you feel younger and you really want to impress your date. Keep your
feet firmly on the ground no matter what your heart tells you.
Are you really ready for your first date? You've chatted online, you've
chatted on the phone, things feel right and you are about to arrange
a date. Don't meet anywhere private, especially someone's home or car
in a car park. If you seen pictures, you know what they look like so
you can meet in public and you should for safety sake. Restaurants are
great because you can have a relaxing one-to-one and really get to know
each other. Cinemas are not a good idea because you'll only share a
film. It's a good idea to tell a friend where you are meeting and even
better if they can be in the same venue at a distance from you.
If you have travelled a fair distance and opted to stay in a hotel.
Avoid meeting your date in the hotel restaurant, it might be convenient
and at least you don't need to go outside. The trouble is you could
leave yourself in a compromising position. (pun intended)
Sooner or later, sex is going to come up. Needless to say, use condoms
but before all this, talk about both your backgrounds, be open, honest,
candid and frank. Don't be afraid to ask any questions. Ask if they
have had gay sex, unprotected sex and if they were prepared to have
a blood test for sexually transmitted diseases. It's a good reaction
tester!
Have fun in your quest, don't rush into things and stay safe. Good luck.